What would you tell your younger self?
I was blog surfing - going from one blog to the next - clicking on pictures of followers and then clicking of pictures of their followers. It was fun to see all the different blogs and topics, as well as the vast locations across the world. I ended up on one particular blog. This girl is around 21 years old. She was spilling out a drama that only a young 20's woman can - men, friends, dating, disasters.... at the end she was wondering where to meet men other than a bar. I left a comment. As I was about to leave this comment I realized my 21 year old self would slap my 35 year old self for the advice I was about to give. I told her to go to a church and sit in on their singles or young professionals/college group (what ever the church called it). Or, go to some community ed classes - cooking, photography, a class where guys might also attend.
So, all of this left me thinking last night. What would I tell MYSELF? What would I tell my 21 year old self now that I am 35? (Man I was bar tending then and I thought the 30 somethings were soooo old!) I asked myself, my dearest, and my friends.... This is what we came up with
~Figure out a way to go for the guy and finish school
~Doctors don't know everything
~You know yourself better than anyone else does
~Don't play hard to get, be so busy you are hard to get
~Your boyfriend's friends should not be your friends
~Have adventures now - it will be harder later
~Learn more - about more
~If your car can get you there - go, don't sit home
~Ask people to do things, stop waiting for an invite
~You won't wear that sweater in 6 months,but, if you charge it you will still be paying for it then
~If you think you can't afford to do things now, wait until you have a mortgage and kids
~Show off your body a little more, kids will ruin any chance of a bikini later
~Going out with friends needs to be just as important as going out with "the" one (guy)
~There will be another guy. He will be better and you will eventually shake your head at the last.
My dearest (Who had less time to think)
~Don't drink so much beer
~Work out more
~Have it in your mind that your wife should stay home with your kids
~Save money while you can
~Don't use credit cards unless you can pay them off
~Do what you enjoy and enjoy what you do
Mom, don't read this next one...
~Have sex now (yeah, he said it!)
A survey of friends
~ Don't care so much about what other people think
~ Do the things that you enjoy, stop trying to please other people
~ Enjoy spontaneity and live as much as you can.
Go as many places and see as many things as you can
~ You don't know what busy is - take advantage of your free time
While interviewing friends I was told there is a song that is called Letter To Me by Brad Paisley that was fitting for this post. I agree.
What is the advice you would give to your younger self? Think about it and then leave me a comment please.