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The letter of the day fun continues.

I am a little behind in announcing that Polly from Sotto Vocce. The Letter B was her challenge. While "books" and "blue" were easy guess you may be surprised by some of the other 8 favorite B things.

The letter T was assigned to the Chic Geek- she did not say the Tide... but she did have 10 wonderful T things .... go check it out.

Belly laughs

Youtube never ceases to amaze me. Everything is there. Who are you people? But, hey, thanks for not letting me down!

Beauty she is a Beast

Acne-plural acnes 1) (pathology) A skin condition, usually of the face, that is common in adolescents. It is characterised by red pimples, and is caused by the inflammation of sebaceous glands through bacterial infection.

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Will there ever come a time when I do not get pimples?

You know, pimples - aka: zits, acne, white or black heads, volcanoes, blemishes, miserable skin eruptions and that can interrupt an otherwise beautiful day...yeah pimples.

When I was younger (as early as fourth grade) I had a bad case of acne. It seemed to come and go, but it was miserable in High School. It wasn't to the point where I looked like I had road rash or pox ... but bad enough.

As I aged I figured they would lessen and eventually disappear. They lessened. Disappear? Definitely not!

I have gone through this little deal with myself (as if I had any control)...
I would no longer have to deal with acne when...
when- I am 18, no?
well then...when- I turn 21....
how about 25yrs. old...
for sure when I am 30 I will no longer have to deal with pimples.
Yeah...no....
Here I am 35 yrs old
and still I wake up with a "zit" here or there OR EVERYWHERE!
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HERE is where the real problems lies.
Not only do I still have the occasional break out.
No, now these pimples are showing up on top of the wrinkles I am starting to get! Seriously!

Who has pimples and wrinkles at the same time?

Apparently I do!

Beware: Bitching is contagious

A conversation from the past:
"Oh, and then he just threw the car seat into the van. Just left it there. Didn't even buckle it in. Can you believe him. Doesn't he care about me? I have to take the time to buckle in the car seat, and the kids were crying."

O.K. , so I have been in this situation. I do know when you are running late, do not know that the car seat is not buckled in, and have to take the time to do so - it can be annoying. However, what was left unsaid in this conversation and I found out through the rest of the conversation was: the car seat wasn't in the car in the first place because the day before (Sunday) the husband had taken the children (all of them) out (where now doesn't matter). He had gotten them out of the house so this mom could have some time. She napped.

I have always gotten along with "the guys" better then a large group of girls. I tend to do better one on one with women. I believe the reason is that when you get a large group of ladies together the bitching starts to fly. You probably already know that bitching/bitchiness is contagious. One starts and like ripples in the pond the rest get sucked in.

This is what I feel is happening to husbands/boyfriends. We as women look for reasons to be angry with them. We are trying to figure out how they have done us wrong. Very rarely do we look at our own actions.

I have always been an advocate for husbands with my friends, I just can't stand listening to their one sided arguments (which is probably why I only have a few friends left!) However, my understanding of husbands drastically changed after reading Shaunti Feldhahn's book For Women Only. (and yes, there is a For Men Only) I had to read it twice. The first time I didn't have the open mind I needed, because, surely it couldn't be MY fault. I wasn't doing anything wrong - it was the man, always is, right?

I know that women don't even realize how they are acting. I was watching John and Kate Plus 8 with my kids last night. It made me remember this topic - watch from (time) 0:10-0:15 and 1:15 to 1:25... You really don't have to watch the whole 9 minutes!

Dearest laughed sooooo hard at John's facial response. He can't stand to watch the show because at least once during the show Kate disrespects John.

Getting back to the point at hand. Ms. Feldhahn points out 6 key things we women misunderstand about men. I have these points ( that I copied from the book) front and center on my bulletin board. They are:

OUR SURFACE UNDERSTANDING
"Men need respect"
WHAT THAT MEANS IN PRACTICE
Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected.
(in other words men see respect as love and vise-versa. If you disrespect your man you are saying you don't love him)

OUR SURFACE UNDERSTANDING
" Men are providers"
WHAT THAT MEANS IN PRACTICE
Despite their "in control" exterior, men often feel like impostors and are insecure that
their inadequacies will be discovered

OUR SURFACE UNDERSTANDING
"Men want more sex"
WHAT THAT MEANS IN PRACTICE
Your sexual desire for your husband profoundly affects his sense of well being and
confidence in all ares of his life

OUR SURFACE UNDERSTANDING
"Men are visual"
WHAT THAT MEANS IN PRACTICE
Even happily married men struggle with being pulled toward live and recollected images of
other women

OUR SURFACE UNDERSTANDING
"Men are unromantic clods"
WHAT THAT MEANS IN PRACTICE
Actually most men enjoy romance (sometimes in different ways) and want to be romantic -
but hesitate because they doubt they can succeed.

OUR SURFACE UNDERSTANDING
"Men care about appearance"
WHAT THAT MEANS IN PRACTICE
You don't need to be a size 3, but your man does need to see you make the effort to take
care of yourself - and he will take on significant cost or inconvenience in order to support
you.
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These are just very short summaries of the main points discussed in the book. Don't judge the book by the summary. Grab it, drink a glass of wine, and open your mind.
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Alright comb your ruffled feathers down. Think about what I am saying, and just consider for once, that men are not always 100% to blame. Our guys live a harder life than we give them consideration for.

Even men like this book, it helps them realize why they are feeling the way they are feeling. See this blog post

Disclaimer - some men are just plain jerks and will continue acting the way they do no matter what we try. Sometimes you are just disrespecting yourself by sticking around. I mentioned this in a post before.

Looking Ahead

Preview for the rest of my week



All week - Plan our Spring Break - guess where?
Hotels are as low as $39 in March!






Wednesday - I am getting my hair dyed back to my natural color.
It has not been 100% my natural color for 9 years! Highlights, low lights, all gone for now...








Tomorrow - start working on our taxes. Quicken here I come







Friday - I got asked out on a Valentine date





Through the weekend - continue work on my speech for March
(time will fly)

The letter fun continues

Adam from I don't give 2 cents, I throw quarters has published his letter post. His letter was K. Kermit and Krispy Kremes are on the list click here to see what other 8 things Adam likes with the letter K.

A Few of my Favorite things

Starlene at Return to Myself was challenged
by Annie from Blissful Bohemian.
List 10 things that you love.
However, these things must start with the letter given to you.
I wanted to play to. (Something to do on a Sunday I figured)
I was sent the letterR....
Here we go, a few of my favorite things (starting with the Letter R)

RingDearest just gave me the four stone piece

Ribbon

It is a visual pleasure

Rowing

A canoe

Rubdown

Need I say more....

Rock Climbing

Talk about instant gratification

Red

My favorite color

Reading

Being transported to another time and place

Ranting

Just releasing the ideas in my head
-usually reserved for friends

Rainbow

Promise of a new day

Reef

Dreams of a tropical vacation

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R words I don't like.....


Rumors
Regret
Rust (on vehicles)



NOW, if you want to play along. Let me know via comment and I will assign you a letter.
(You can just make a list. You don't have to get all picturey)