"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do."
— Eleanor Roosevelt
— Eleanor Roosevelt
People get wrapped in their own issues and thoughts. We are an ego-centric being. We think about ourselves and think others should be thinking of us too. When they don't we are confused, amazed, and a bit peeved (maybe). When you talk to someone in passing and they forgot to ask you about a major event in your life, or they seem quick/cold/uncaring your first thought is how rude of them. ("don't they care about ME?")
When they seem unconcerned with our issues there is a chance we will get offended. When they don't send your favorite Christmas present after we so deliberately and painstakingly shopped/wrapped/and sent them theirs in November to be sure it made it ahead of time - we are agasp at their gull.
But, don't act so quickly - ego-centric one. Slow down, and consider the other person for once. You may never know what is on their mind - they may never share. But, your first assumption should not be that they are mad at you, are rude, or just plain selfish. They have their own things, we all do. We all fight our demons, we all are effected differently on different days. The issues could be many - bills, relationships, health, money and the lack of, emotional issues, hormones, the spin of the Earth, the wrong side of the bed, their child or other family member or the lack of, their car, or their pet, the housework, the color of the sky, their low gas tank, etc.... I bet some of the time they probably can't even explain why they feel like they do - much less explain it to someone else.
Yes, they should have asked you about your move, or new house, or sick child. Yes they should have called or sent that Christmas present on time. But, you and I and them have other things in our lives..... it isn't always about you and your thing. Really, the fact that we don't think about others and what could be going on with THEM just shows how ego-centric we really are. (I say 'we' because I do it too) All we think is - What about ME?
Maybe just maybe it is about them.